Teenage brain

Getting Closer: What New Research Reveals About Teens, AI, and the Relationships That Matter

“Get closer!” my son said. I was standing in front of a giant piece of art that spanned half the wall. The image was completely captivating and I was reluctant to lose the perspective I had from across the room. My kid, on the other hand, was nearly climbing into the artwork. His insistence, and…  Read More

Pressure to Share: What a New Study on Nude Photos Tells Us About Teen Relationships

We’ve all seen the chilling public service announcements. A girl is messaging someone online and the conversation appears to be taking place between friends. The person asks for a photo and promises support and care in return. Then the screen splits, revealing that it’s actually an older man on the other end. These dramatic “reveals”…  Read More

First Phones, Training Wheels, and the Science of Starting Slow

What New Research Can (and Can’t) Tell Us About the Right Age for a First Smartphone

“Your phone is blowing up!” a friend noticed during a walk together. “Everything okay?”  I laughed and showed her the avalanche of cow, sunglass-smiley-face, and poop emojis pouring down my phone screen. “Ah. New smartwatch?” she asked.  “Yup,” I responded.  A persistent string of nonsensical emojis is typical for a pre-teen exploring what’s possible on…  Read More

When Friendship Goes Frictionless

Teens, AI, and The Search For Connection

When I’m leading workshops with parents about adolescence, I often invite them to travel back to their own teenage years. I’m not asking for a perfectly accurate replay of events. Instead, I ask for memories of what it felt like to be on that rocky, turbulent, exhilarating road from childhood to adulthood. Together, we fill…  Read More

The Algorithmic Education of Boys

Insights from a new report from Common Sense Media

There’s a small print hanging on the wall just outside our kitchen that says simply, “It’s okay to cry here.” I don’t necessarily need the reminder. I come from a family of cryers. If you’ve been lucky enough to see my dad speak, you know he can rarely get through a keynote or workshop without…  Read More

New Data Reveals How and Why Teens Are Turning to AI Companions

In my latest book, I describe my early interactions with a rudimentary 1990s AI program called Dr. Sbaitso. This was back in the days of dial-up internet, so this “doctor” was far from a fluid and sophisticated conversation partner. The voice was robotic, it took forever to generate answers, and the program rarely delivered the…  Read More

New Health Advisory on AI and Teens: Insights from the APA

“That’s probably just AI,” my youngest said, pointing at an image that looked a little too perfect to be real. “How can you tell?” I responded.  “It just seems like it,” he shrugged.  On one hand, this skepticism is an asset in a digital world where the line between human- and AI-generated content continues to…  Read More

AI Companions Are Talking to Kids—Are We?

I remember watching the 2013 movie Her, where a man named Theo develops a relationship with an artificial intelligence operating system, and feeling two contradictory things at once: incredulous (“This could never really happen”) and uneasy (“This seems like it really could happen”). Fast forward twelve years, and my second impulse was right. We’re closer than ever…  Read More

Teens, Tech, and the Power of Staying Curious

When our kids are little, we get a lot of data about their lives. We know their friends, what they ate for lunch, and which show they want to watch on repeat. I remember sometimes wishing for less data when my youngest’s preferred safety spot was in my lap, facing me, with both hands clutching…  Read More

Teens walking to school and roaming the neighborhood independently.

Play Without Pressure and Room to Roam: Why Independent Activities Are Key to Wellbeing

In the past five years every major organization dedicated to adolescent health and development has sounded the alarm on mental health. There has been a cascade of articles trying to answer the question, “What is going on here?”   While it’s tempting to pin the blame for these trends on one factor, let’s be wary of…  Read More