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First Phones, Training Wheels, and the Science of Starting Slow

What New Research Can (and Can’t) Tell Us About the Right Age for a First Smartphone

“Your phone is blowing up!” a friend noticed during a walk together. “Everything okay?”  I laughed and showed her the avalanche of cow, sunglass-smiley-face, and poop emojis pouring down my phone screen. “Ah. New smartwatch?” she asked.  “Yup,” I responded.  A persistent string of nonsensical emojis is typical for a pre-teen exploring what’s possible on…  Read More

The Futures We Grow: Stories That Help Children Thrive

We humans love stories. We love telling them and listening to them. Stories are how we communicate who we are and who we want to be. One of the best parts of parenting is curling up with kids to read a good story. But stories don’t always start with “once upon a time.” We create…  Read More

Growing Up in a Gamblified Digital World

What a New Report Reveals About Boys and Gambling

“Have you noticed all these sports betting ads this year?” I asked my family as we waited for the Super Bowl halftime show. “That means a lot of people are losing a lot of money.”  “Yeah,” my teenager replied. “But someone else is winning a lot of money…”  I took in a sharp breath, resisting…  Read More

What Children Learn When We Practice Collective Care

I am the kind of person who organizes my life around traditions. There is a joke in our community that once we do something once, we put it on the calendar in perpetuity. These traditions and rituals shift and change over time, but they still function as the glue that holds us together. I gathered…  Read More

The AAP’s Vision for a Child-Friendly Digital World

From Screen Time to Circles of Influence

Caregivers are inundated with guidance about screen time. Some of it helps families find firm footing; much of it is conflicting, oversimplified, or untethered from the latest developmental science. It’s no wonder parents feel tired and eager for clarity. On our most exhausted days, we just want someone to tell us what to do. At…  Read More

AI-Generated Images, Real Harm: Talking to Teens About Grok

“How is that allowed?” my middle schooler asked me recently. My son had just learned that Elon Musk’s AI chatbot and image generator, Grok, was being used within X to “undress” existing images of people online. We had already talked about nudify and “undressing” apps (add this to the growing list of awkward but essential…  Read More

Beyond the Ban: Adolescence, Agency, and What Comes Next

“I am just so tired. It feels like a full-time job,” a parent shared with me recently, describing the constant work of managing parental controls and online risks. “Yeah,” I replied. “You aren’t alone. Most of these platforms aren’t designed with our kids’ wellbeing in mind, and we’ve largely outsourced responsibility to parents and kids.…  Read More

When Friendship Goes Frictionless

Teens, AI, and The Search For Connection

When I’m leading workshops with parents about adolescence, I often invite them to travel back to their own teenage years. I’m not asking for a perfectly accurate replay of events. Instead, I ask for memories of what it felt like to be on that rocky, turbulent, exhilarating road from childhood to adulthood. Together, we fill…  Read More

The Algorithmic Education of Boys

Insights from a new report from Common Sense Media

There’s a small print hanging on the wall just outside our kitchen that says simply, “It’s okay to cry here.” I don’t necessarily need the reminder. I come from a family of cryers. If you’ve been lucky enough to see my dad speak, you know he can rarely get through a keynote or workshop without…  Read More

ChatGPT’s New Parental Controls: What Parents Need to Know

Whenever I hear about a new set of parental controls, two feelings rise up immediately: relief and resentment. Relief that the industry is responding to parental concerns and acknowledging that young people aren’t mini-adults. Settings that help parents protect their kids from harm are not “nice to have” in 2025; they are essential. Resentment because we…  Read More